Monday Mumblings
It is far too early on Monday morning and I laid awake in bed last night writing this post. Do you remember this “Getting Real” post? Sadly most of it remains to be true. Rereading it hit me hard, not much has changed. But in an effort to remind us all that we are human and get some of what I am feeling out there in the world, I decided it was time to be real again.
Let me preface this with, I am enjoying life. My my kids are thriving, happy and loved. Lucy is very bright and Jack is quite possibly the smiliest little guy ever. The reality, I’m struggling with feeling like I am not doing my job the best I can. It’s so easy to put on the super mom persona and present ourselves with the positive image of doing it all and loving it. Let’s all be honest, this is not reality for anyone everyday.
Preschool has consumed me as of late. I have been gathering info and trying to visit schools so as to make the right choice for Lucy next year. That has to happen now before things fill up and it is stressful. I’m confident however that I will have this figured out by weeks end. And on that note, I read stuff about what other kids are doing and I can’t help but compare. We, moms, all do it. We want out kid to be the brightest and best. I worry that I am not teaching her things she needs to know now at three and a half. Then I witness her hold a conversation and write her name and reassure myself that she is doing just fine. Now I need to buy a set of letters so we can get that nailed down. Seems identifying letters and numbers is a two year old skill these days.
And with that, I’ll share that Lucy is not potty trained. Those that are closest to me know that I struggle with this daily. I swear to you I have tried everything except tying her to the seat for the day. And yet, I’m still buying pull ups for her and there is no end in sight. It kills me to be blogging out it. I’m embarrassed to admit it and have not talked much about it on here at least. When people tell me not to worry about it and that lots of 4 year olds are not trained, I want to scream. I have not seen one child Lucy’s age in a diaper. Not one. So, please don’t tell me it’s ok and that she’ll do it when she wants to. I just want her trained already. The whole ordeal makes me sad.
So, what is this all about you ask. This post is simply to express some frustrations. To make sure you all realize that we all struggle in some way or another everyday. There isn’t a family out there that lives that perfect life despite what the blog world presents. And with that, I am off today to visit some preschools and to buy some rope to tie Lucy to the potty. Spare me the comments on how great a job I am doing and that Lucy will do it soon. Stay tuned to a happier, healthier Tanya later this week. I’m retiring my super mom cape for a few days to recoup.
Good luck onthe Preschool hunt! I know we touched on Tinkerbell. Evan wnet to Magic Touch in West Bridgewater and loved it there. they hae great teachers and a great curriculum as well. Mrs. Nichols, the director, is great and she won’t sugar coat things. She is REAL, one of things i loved about her!
Hope you have a fabulous day and I hope that your venting helped. sometimesd we just need to get out it, whether it be verbally, on paper, or in this case a blog!
Big hugs!
Love ya
xoxo
Hugs! I had a similar conversation with my co-workers last night about how hard parenting is and how you’re always wondering if you’re making the best decisions or disciplining the “right” way. As you know, I have constant worries about Landon and I definitely don’t feel like super-Mom most days…
A few things to say…I am sitting her crying because I can relate all too well, people LIE about what their child can do just to make themselves look and feel great & finally letter and numbers at two please spare me….Samuel it JUST finally putting words together. I myself have put my supermom cape in the wash and it won’t be out and ready to wear till at least Sunday!
“retiring my super mom cape for a few days to recoup.” That is authenticity and humility! That is what REAL supermoms are ~ authentic and humble! So, even in the bad times ~ (I tremble to say it!) ~ you just really can’t help but be super!
Hi Tanya,
I know you from the Boston Nest! I just wanted to say I really enjoy reading your blog from time to time. You are a very engaging writer!
That being said, Nate still wears a diaper during naptime and he will be 4 in August. Tony still poops in his underwear once a day most days and I feel on edge sometimes too. Lucy is a lovely and smart little girl. You are doing a good job. Email me if you ever want to chat. randi@chrisandrandi.us
Randi
Tanya… I couldn’t agree more. And it’s only healthy to vent about frustrations sometimes! I hope you can get something figured out with school.. I’ll be on that soon enough… starting now.
And a little note on the potty training…. Noah showed interest at 2yrs… I have been potty training for months. He is trained, but yet some days he’ll have 5+ accidents. Other days he’s great. Long road.. still going.
My niece who is going to be 4 years old on Feb 3 ….wants NOTHING to do with the potty. My sister has tried (not as hard as you have) and my niece wanted no part. This week….. she begged to wear undies to school… she was dry ALL day long. I actually think they might have it much easier than me… because she’s ready now and won’t have all the accidents I went through.
So there is hope. And there is one other 4 yr old in dipes!
And I know… you don’t want to hear it… but I admire you as a mom. Even if you don’t feel like your super mom all the time, it’s ok. We all have our strenghts… and being a mom is one of yours… like it or not!
Call me anytime and we’ll grab drinks and chat!
Stephanie